Instagram & Facebook Dating Cheatsheet (You Don't Want to Miss This One)

0:00 Marissa, tonight I am going to have a festival in your vestibule. However, right now I am recording a podcast for my boys. Being it that the kitchen is above my office, I'm going to need you to shut the hell up, keep the baby out of there, and pipe the hell down until I get your vestibule later tonight. Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast. The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys?

0:37 Mark Sing here. Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Unapologetic Man Podcast. And yes, I did just send that to my girlfriend. She's going to get that festival in her vestibule tonight. But man, when they're in that kitchen that's right above my office, particularly when the damn baby hits the goddamn pots with wooden spoons, she literally does that above my office, I'm like, oh my hell, what did I do, bro? What did I do with this baby? I'm going to teach you guys how to get yourself a baby by completely optimizing the shit out of your Instagram page.

1:11 And listen, if you don't have Instagram, that's absolutely fine. But I'm going to teach you what I did before I yanked Marissa, who I consider is a total 10, before I was able to get her, I used the method that I'm about to show you to get so many girls, my dude. And you guys need to pay attention to what I'm going to tell you. Okay? So here's how you're going to listen to this podcast, my bro. You're not going to just sit there nodding and saying, yeah, that's a great idea.

1:40 I should do that. I should definitely do that. And then never do it. I really want you to consider doing this. I want you to take this seriously because this could change your entire dating life. Okay? So the reason the American military is so damn successful is because we're smart. We use that matter in between our two ears and we use our fucking brain to stack the chips in our favor. Why would we go in a frontal attack on the enemy when we can go in at night with night vision goggles when the Taliban is sleeping and kick their ass when we have nods on and we have all kinds of support.

2:14 We got snipers on the rooftops. We stack the chips heavily in our favor. I actually saw this thing that was recorded by the guy who killed Osama bin Laden. His name is Robert O'Neill. He said that him and his buddies in SEAL Team 6, Red Squadron, went on over 200 missions, I believe it was. Don't quote me on that. And not one dude got injured. Think about that. 200 house raids, 200 firefights, 200 CQB where you have to pie the corner and snipe some guy in the head like they did Osama bin Laden.

2:46 When they have AK-47s, suicide vests, and they're living in a territory that they know of like the back of their hand, yet the American military is so gangster and they train so hard and they stack all the chips in their favor that we were able to take all those guys out. Think about that. And that's what I want to turn you guys into when it comes to dating women. When it comes to women, why in the hell would you stack the chips against yourself? Why would you stand in line at the nightclub, pay cover, try to approach women who have more value than you do?

3:17 Wouldn't you agree it would be better to walk in with four different nines, use their hotness to your advantage, make yourself seriously like 500% more attractive? Listen, if I take you, just you, and I put you in a club, you got your attractiveness, okay, that's kind of where it is. I put five nines around you, bro, you just went up a thousand points of attraction. You are 600 times more attractive than you were when you walked into that club alone. So why the fuck aren't guys doing this?

3:46 And the reason they aren't doing this is because immediately, and I know what you're saying, it's because I don't have any hot friends, bro. I don't have any hot friends. Let me ask you this. A girl who's extremely attractive, how do you think she makes her living? The way she makes her living is by being paid for her hotness. Wouldn't you agree? So don't you think that girls that are ultra hot are willing to get paid for their hotness? And with that logic in hand, don't you think you could hire some and use them in order to make yourself more attractive to other girls?

4:17 Now, I want you to think about how can this apply to IG, Instagram? All right, well, we all know about pre-selection. And if you don't know, I'll give a quick recap. Pre-selection means girls will be attracted to you when you have hot girls with you. This is a cognitive shortcut that's literally programmed into the minds of women. Anthropologically speaking, it's basically like, okay, he's attractive to other girls, so I'm attracted to him. Literally, this is how it works. And it happens on a subconscious level. If a girl sees you, that's right, you, brother, with a nine on your arm, and she's like an eight, or even if she's a nine, she is going to be much more attracted to you than if you were just standing there alone.

4:58 I'm willing to say she'd be 500% more attracted to you. Now you put two nines on your arm, 700% more attracted to you. Three nines, a thousand times more attracted to you. It's literally exponential, and it's ridiculous how powerful this is. I talked about this in pre-selection, yet I talk to a lot of you guys. I get emails from listeners. I have guys in my three-month coaching program, which, by the way, if you want to get on a free breakthrough session with me where you and I talk about your issues with women, sign up on my website, CoachMarkSingh.com.

5:30 You could also click the link in the description below and get on with me so we can talk about this kind of stuff. But listen, sometimes I just scratch my head, pull out my hair, and get so pissed off, I want to smack you upside the head so hard, your mustache flies off when the concussion hits, and it fucking blows through the skylight that's above you. This is how pissed I get. I want to hit you so hard, you fly back up your mom's vagina. This is how rage-induced I get when dudes hire me.

5:56 I tell them to do this, and then they don't do it. And there's the thing about me, bro, is I'm going to get your ass across the finish line kicking and screaming. So what I do is I hold my guys accountable. And I say, listen, why aren't you doing this pre-selection thing? Because it's hard, bro. Like, I don't have any girlfriends. What am I supposed to do? Go take a picture with some girl on the street? Yeah, but here's a better option. All right, I want you boys to take notes.

6:19 This is what I tell my clients. Go to the website Seeking.com. Seeking, like I'm seeking out a girl, dot com. Okay, so this website is where you can hire girls to basically hang out with you. Now, we're not doing anything sexual. There's no prostitution. And that's not what I'm implying. What I'm implying is you spend a couple hundred bucks on a couple different girls to come out with you. All right? Take them to the nightclubs. You can also hire a photographer or you bring a friend who has a camera or even with your iPhone.

6:52 And you take shit tons of pictures with these chicks. Then what you do is you systematically drop them into your Instagram to communicate that all-important thing of pre-selection so that you can show other women whose Instagrams you get down the road that you have this awesome lifestyle. You have hot girls with you. You're basically a champion who's living the life that these girls want to be a part of. Okay, so here's what I do. Listen, if Marissa broke up with me, if she told me I'm no longer allowed to have festivals in your vestibule, then I would do this exact thing if I didn't have hot friends already.

7:27 If I didn't have hot friends, I'd go to seeking.com. I would hit up a bunch of different chicks. I'd probably want to get three to five different girls to come out with me on a Saturday. Okay, so I'd pay each one, I don't know, 200 bucks. Okay, so let's say five girls, that's $1,000. Then I get a photographer. You can get a photographer for about 100 bucks. Now we're at $1,100. You could do it for cheaper, but I want like nines and tens. And I think a nine or a ten for an entire day, like 200 is about the cheapest she's going to go.

7:56 You can get a different girl for maybe 100 who's not quite as hot, like she's an eight or a nine. But like I want the hottest of the hot. Okay, and I want about five of them, three to five. But in my case, because I do have a little bit of extra money I can spend on this, I would put in about a grand to do this, and I'd want five girls. All right, so what I do is I would schedule out the whole fucking day. All right, beginning of the day, Jessica and Kelly, you guys are coming over.

8:22 We're going to go hiking together. We're going to play tennis, and we're going to play golf. And I want you guys literally to bring outfits. Okay, the rest of the day, I'm going to go sunbathing with this girl. We're going to go on the paddle boats. We're going to go play miniature golf or go to a restaurant and pretend like we're all there eating. Okay, so basically what I'm saying is you're staging all these different pictures with five different girls who look like your friends. Not girls you're hooking up with.

8:50 I really want you to get this straight in your head. These are just your friends, and this is the way it needs to look. You have really hot girlfriends. You do really cool things. So I would literally schedule the day, and it's basically work for them. Listen, Kelly, I want you to bring three different outfits for the daytime, hiking, tennis, golf, and then two different outfits for nightclub stuff. Then you, bro, the guy who hired these girls, you also need to change outfits, half the pictures you have had on, the other half the pictures you have your hair done really nice, and you're taking hundreds upon hundreds upon hundreds of pictures.

9:25 And explain this to these girls. They don't understand about pre-selection. Most girls have never heard about it. So when you explain it, and you can even explain it in your marketing message when you first email them, hey, Kelly, what's up? I think you're gorgeous. Listen, this is what I want to do. This is why I want to do it. Would you be interested? I'll pay you $150, $200 for, I don't know, five hours of your time. Would you be interested in that? I guarantee you the majority of women who are on that site, who are looking to get paid for their hotness, or who hopefully already do get paid for their hotness, will jump at the opportunity.

9:59 I know they would. Okay, so you like plan the day, all right? Like you have a schedule, and you're like, hey, we're going to take this picture, this picture. You get 400 pictures, not only of you guys doing things during the day, you guys in like Starbucks, you guys in like a breakfast restaurant, a lunch restaurant, a night restaurant, but then you go to the nightclubs. You have the girls take a couple different outfits, two to three, and you're changing a couple times throughout the night. Park your car at the top of a parking garage.

10:27 All their suitcases are in the back of it. Like this is their work. Like this is what they're doing. Okay, ladies, get doled up. You guys take shit tons of pictures, shit tons of videos. Your friend's taking pictures of you. You're taking a picture with your iPhone, and it looks like you have all these hot girls in your life. Can you see how this works? Now, you end it with like 400 plus pictures. Okay, 300 plus are like decent enough to use. Then what you do is you start an Instagram account, and you trickle these in along with other pictures of you doing things with your friends.

10:58 So it's not just you with these chicks, but it's like it seems spontaneous. Like, oh, this weekend they went out here. This weekend they all went golfing. Wow, this guy has like five really hot friends. He must be super social. Okay, so you set that up. Take a couple weeks to do it, maybe even a month. And then when you yank girls' phone numbers, you don't go for the phone number. You go for the Instagram account. Why? Just like I said, stack the fucking chips in your favor.

11:24 Why would you get a phone number when she knows nothing about you, when you haven't had a lot of time to build the attraction, when you could get the Instagram and let the Instagram do all the work for you? Pre-selection, like I just said, one nine, you're 300% more attractive, two nines, 500%. I can't remember the exact ratios, but you understand what I'm saying. So let the Instagram fucking do it for you, right? And most hot girls have Instagram. You guys are a little bit older. I understand you may not want to do this, but I've seen older gentlemen, and I dare say I've coached a lot of older gentlemen to do this because they want to get slightly younger girls.

12:00 Most girls who are about up to 40, even above, will have Instagram. Most girls, not all. And then the younger ones have TikTok, but IG right now is the shit. And again, it's basically a sales funnel, right? Like it's basically the same thing as automated emails, automated sales messages, automated sales pages, payment buttons installed, retargeting. And this is all marketing terms for basically it's doing everything for you. It's automated. You see how that works? Like you don't need to build up so much attraction because the Instagram page is doing that for you.

12:34 You have 50 to 60 pictures, which will take you a couple weeks to get them all set up. You can even do it in one day, but, you know, sometimes you want to be a little careful because it shows what date it was posted. Take a couple weeks to really fill it up. Really be systematic about it. All your pictures should communicate a high-value lifestyle. You're attractive to women. You have girlfriends. You're in the know. You do fun things. You're a fucking champion, right? And you guys can literally hire girls to do this for you.

13:01 Why would you go spend $1,000 paying cover at a bar, buying a big bottle of Grey Goose? I mean, bro, right there is like $1,500 just to do that, only to like have the slight chance of getting a girl attracted to you. Wouldn't you rather hire some girls to come with you, not only taking pictures, but, dude, when you're in the nightclubs and they're taking pictures of you, as all these hot chicks are dancing around you and pretending like they're into you, you're going to get so many numbers from all the girls in the club itself.

13:29 So you could also use that as an advantage to get yourself some phone numbers and some Instagrams that night. This is totally what I do. And, again, if Marissa broke up with me tonight, what I would do is, you know, cry on the corner of my bed in the cannonball position, crying like a schoolgirl for several weeks, and then I'd be like, all right, brother, pull yourself up by your bootstraps. You tell your clients to do this all the time, it's time for you to walk the talk.

13:54 So I would get all my hot girlfriends, and fortunately, I'm already in the position where I have them, and I'd be like, listen, ladies, would you do this for me? They'll be like, oh, hell yeah. Set up all that pre-selection, start a new Instagram page, go out, and instead of getting phone numbers, I'd be like, hey, do you have Instagram? And I'd also probably do the barbecue slash potluck thing I talked about a couple weeks ago. If you didn't see that, I think the title was How to Fill the Top of Your Funnel with 10x More Women.

14:22 I would do that, and then I would just be exchanging Instagrams. As I'm doing that potluck thing, I would probably get more pictures with these chicks, and this is what I did. Like, when I had AIG, before I met Marissa, I've since taken it down out of respect for her and her family. It was just me with just hot chicks everywhere, like the lifestyle of the lifestyle that girls want to be a part of. What did I do? I grabbed Instagrams, right? And if they don't have Instagram, kind of sucks.

14:50 It would happen sometimes. In that case, you just get their number, or you can even do this on Facebook. In my opinion, IG is a lot better set up for it, but you can do it on Facebook too. You know, cover all your bases, right? Stack the chips in your favor. So once again, guys, the website is seeking.com. What I would do is I'd put anywhere from 500 to 1,000 into it, do it on a Saturday, take tons and tons and tons of pictures, get them all set up, drop them systematically like a chess player into your Instagram account.

15:21 Shows all that pre-selection, and then what you do is when you get a girl's information, she's going to stalk you on that Instagram account. And you know when to DM her, when she's been stalking your account, she likes some of your posts, she comments on some things. And a lot of the times, guys, these girls will reach out to you first because they want to be a part of that. Again, it's a cognitive shortcut. Oh my God, this guy has beautiful women in his life. What the fuck is with this guy?

15:47 Oh, he must be attractive. He must be really confident. He must be really decisive. He must be fun. I want to hang out with this guy, and she'll be like, hey, right, the little girl, hey, how are you, right, that whole shebang. And you're like, ah, here we go, dude. The freaking Instagram account pre-planted the pre-selection into her brain. Now she's attracting its easy clothes. Again, stacking the chips in your favor. So the website is seeking.com. That's what I do if you have no girls in your life.

16:18 If you have some, and I got to say this, I don't want to be disrespectful to women, but don't do this with like anything lower than an eight. Don't get a bunch of sevens and sixes to do this because it doesn't really make you look good. I get it. Like pre-selection seems like it would just be okay no matter what the girl looks like, but it does matter a lot what the woman looks like. So I prefer for you to have nines and tens, extremely attractive women, beautiful faces, beautiful smiles, nice bodies.

16:48 And then in those pictures, it should be like you're just having a good time, but they're trying to get in on your scene, and they're kind of like more into it than you are. A lot of my pictures on Instagram was like I wouldn't even be smiling. I'd just be like standing there with my hands in my pockets, and then the girls would all be posed around me. That was kind of like the higher value look than me like spazzing out with a big smile. I would do that sometimes, and those are the kinds of pictures that would end up being taken.

17:16 But I noticed the ones that get the best response is when I'm kind of like, it seems like I'm chilling, and they're trying to ride on my coattails. That's what you kind of want it to look like. So take a ton of them, set up your Instagram, start following girls and getting girls to follow you. This will give you a flood of women because it absolutely stacks the chips in your favor. Like I said in the beginning, you're probably sitting there nodding, being like, yeah, that's a great idea, but I can't afford that, or that's a great idea.

17:41 I don't know if I could take that kind of pressure of having five super hot girls with me, or how would I arrange that? How would I schedule that? Bro, you really want to get better with women, right? Don't lie to me. I know you do. And it's so interesting to me, like, what will stop certain dudes? Like a little bit of hassle. Like, no, I don't want to, it's uncomfortable. I don't want to do that. Come on, bro. Like, sack the fuck up and do what the fuck it takes to get yourself results.

18:06 Are you going to keep doing what you're doing, which is getting goddamn sevens off the dating apps? Or do you want to get like nines and tens? This is the way to do it. You got to think outside the box. Use that brain matter between your two ears and think like a chess player, not checkers. Don't play the same game everybody else is playing. Standing in line, paying cover, paying for big bottles of Dom and freaking buying tables is bullshit. Your Ferrari that you bought isn't going to get you girls.

18:31 What gets you girls, if you want to spend money to get girls, this is the way to do it. Hire hot girls to help give you that pre-selection. It's over. And it's kind of like an airplane. Once that airplane gets off the ground, meaning once you've taken all these pictures, once that's all done, then you're just going to get more and more pictures because you're going to get more girls in your life. You need to kind of stay on top of it and be like, ah, God, I got to take pictures.

18:55 Hey, ladies, come over here. Let's take a picture. You'll be glad you did once you get it over with. Taking the picture is a Hasselhoff. I get that. Taking videos for IG, it seems try hard. It's a Hasselhoff. And I know. I used to dread doing it. But the results that got me were so worth it. You know how it is when you go on a vacation. You're like, oh, man, I'm so glad I took these pictures where at the time I didn't want to take them.

19:19 But now that I have them later, I'm super appreciative for them. So that's what I do, boys. I mean, straight up, seeking.com. I just hire girls. Now, I want to say a caveat to this. Keep it legal. I don't know exactly what the rules are for what's illegal and what isn't. But I can only imagine you hiring her as a model and then sign a consent form. Like, I can use your pictures on my IG. Make sure it's all in the up and up. That's what I would definitely do.

19:44 But being it that I'm not here to give legal advice, I want you guys to research all that yourself. And definitely don't try to pay for sex because, I mean, that's fucking illegal in almost all counties in the United States. Aside from one in Las Vegas, I think. I think there's one in Las Vegas where you can go get your pickle tickled and pay for it legally. I think there's only one city in Las Vegas, I'm pretty sure. So keep everything on the up and up.

20:09 Make sure you get forms. Plan the shit. You need to literally make a schedule and you're the boss. And who knows? Maybe one of those chicks will get attracted to you because she sees like how much you're controlling the frame, how much you're leading this. She's going to see your high value. And it's interesting because even though you paid for her to be there, if she sees that other girls get attracted to you because she's there, even though you paid her, she may still get attracted to you because attraction is not a choice.

20:37 It's emotional reaction to stimuli that is unconscious and cannot be controlled. So I've worked with women before who were hired to be there in some of my previous seduction stuff and they got attracted to me even though like technically they were paid to be there. So that could happen to look at all the opportunities you just created rather than spending a grand at some bullshit table and a bottle of Grey Goose. You're going to spend the grand into something that's actually going to get your results.

21:05 That's what I do, boys. I know fucking 90% of you are going to be like, yeah, it's great. I'll do that later. Yeah, yeah, I'll do that later. I know. I know your excuses. And listen, if you're not going to do it now, if you're not fired up, you're not going to do it. You're not. But to those few guys who are listening to this and actually implement this shit, email me, bro. Email me and tell me how it went. When you're done with it. No, I will not go through your pictures.

21:26 Please keep the email short, boys. Jesus, man. I'm getting hundreds of emails. And some of you guys, God bless America, dude. You told me your whole life story. Stick to the highlights. Make it easy for me and my assistant to read. If you do that, I'll want to hear about it. I love hearing about successes. And just watch. To you guys who have the fucking balls, I respect you. And furthermore, you're going to get results. Just wait, bro. Just wait because this is what I do and I know what the fuck I'm talking about.

21:54 All right, gentlemen. That's it for me in this podcast. I do appreciate you listening. Once again, if you want to get on a free session with me where you and I talk one-on-one with nobody else there, just me and you to talk about your issues, talk about your struggles. And I'm going to quote you how long it's going to take for you to get that alpha part of you to be revealed because right now he's like, hey, bro, hey, bro, I'm stuck back here, man. Could you let me out, bro?

22:18 I really want to get some girls, dude. I'm confident. I'm decisive. Why am I stuck back here? And he's stuck behind the window of your insecurities, behind the mud that's been caked onto him of all the bullshit that happened in your life. I use NLP, neuro-linguistic programming, to remove that bullshit, give you the beliefs of an alpha so that champion who is stuck can come out and he's like, yeah, boys, I'm free now, motherfuckers. Let's go get some girls. That's going to be him when he gets revealed, which happens to all my clients through the three-month coaching program, man.

22:51 I just get emails every day with so much love from my boys. I had a couple guys who just started who are emailing me and being like, oh my God, Mark, this shit is the shit. I'm like, of course it is, bro. I do this shit professionally and I'm very, very confident about what I do. So if you want to get on that call with me, hit me up, brother. Hit me up anytime. All right, gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays, so stay tuned for the next one.

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