The First 5 Things a Girl Notices About You

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, guys? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate it. And today, we are going to lighten things up a little bit by talking about the five first things a woman notices about you when she sees you for the very first time. These are five important things, and I really want to talk to you guys about how you can dial in your first impression so that we can turn you into a nuclear-powered girl magnet who can attract a woman who can fit into a canoe without capsizing it.

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2:42 All right, the five things that women notice about you. Thing number one, should be obvious, is your appearance, my bro. Your appearance. All right, so some of you who dress like slapjacks, who dress out of the Salvation Army special clothing unit, aren't going to get the results you want. At least not with the level of hotness that you love to attract. So here it is. Your looks don't matter, but your style does. Your appearance, the way your face is, the way you were born, the thing that you cannot control does not matter.

3:15 But the clothing that you wear and your appearance, your cleanliness, your hygiene, as well, in some respects, as your body does matter. Okay, so no need to go out and get facial reconstructive surgery. No need to get calf or butt implants. No need to get that penis enlargement that you've already put the $500 down payment on. Go ahead and get your money back, bro. Don't need to get that penis enlargement. But what you do need to do is you need to get clothes that fit you properly.

3:45 Clothes that are at least somewhat stylish. Okay, if you're dressing out on Walmart and you're rocking the old stonewashed jeans with Reebok tennis shoes with a brown belt and a shirt tucked into it. And on the front of the shirt, you got three wolves howling at the moon while there's a unicorn jumping over your right shoulder. These are the things that need to be reconsidered. Although I will say occasionally I do have a shirt of this kitten riding a piece of pizza floating through space that I will wear to the nightclub sometimes just so that girls give me shit about it.

4:18 But this is a whole different podcast about frame control. We're not going to get into now. And this one, it's all about being stylish. Okay. So a couple tips when it comes to going to nightclubs, going to bars, or anywhere else you happen to be. All right. So you can be the best dressed guy with a three-piece suit at a beach bar where everybody's wearing tank tops and flip flops. And you think that that would be good, but you'll actually get blown out and girls will think that you're socially unintelligent.

4:49 So here's the thing is that no matter where you go, you want to dress in the style of where you're going and you want to be the quote unquote best dressed guy there. That doesn't mean best dressed as in the most money invested in it. It's just the coolest style as represented by the venue which you're going to. Okay. So to the beach bar analogy, if I was going to a beach bar, I would make sure that I had the coolest looking outfit that fit me the best and showed off all my attributes in the best way possible.

5:20 So let's say like flip flops, some cool board shorts. And then in my case, I'd probably wear like a wife beater because I'm pretty shredded and that would be okay in that instance because it's a beach bar. But if I went to a cowboy bar and this actually happened right when I moved to Colorado, I moved to Colorado from Arizona. And before then I was living in Hawaii, before then Japan, before then California. Well, when I was in Hawaii, as well as California, I was really into surfing.

5:46 And I always really liked that surfer look, right? Like rusty surfboards t-shirt, lost surfboards t-shirt, hurly shorts, and like basically skater shoes. That was kind of like the surfer look. And then I had like black spiky hair and some stupid looking jewelry. So when I first came to Colorado, I looked good for like a surfer guy. I knew that style really well because I'd been rocking it for years. But then I would go to the cowboy bars and no girls would want me. So I quickly figured out, okay, I need to dress in the quote unquote cowboy style.

6:20 Now, of course, if you're going to a cowboy bar, I'm not telling you you have to dress up like a cowboy. Although I will say this, brother, when I got that white Stetson hat, holy shit, dude, that thing was a fucking nuclear power girl magnet, bro. I've never seen anything that upped my game like that damn cowboy hat. So when I would go to bars and clubs and, you know, these Western style venues here in Colorado, I'd rock the cowboy hat. What happened? I got more ass than a toilet seat.

6:51 I'd also make sure that my jeans were of the correct variety in the cowboy sense. Something like Levi's would be better than, let's say, diesel with some like motorcycle riding jacket, which is something I'd wear to some different venue. So when you're going to the venue, when you're going to the place, you want to be well dressed. Now, even when I go to the supermarket and I'm going to game, I try to dress just slightly better than most people who are there. Recently, I got this pea coat and right now it's winter and the thing fits me like a glove.

7:22 I had it custom to me. It looks super good. And then I wear these like diesel boots, diesel jeans, and I look really fucking good in that outfit. Well, when I'm going to go open girls, I want to look really fucking good, but not like to try hard. Right. It just looks like you're going through your day to day life, but you're just a champion because that's how you roll. That's how you are, my dude, in your natural habitat. You're just a legend. And that's the way you want to communicate to women.

7:50 Also, and obviously you want to keep your hygiene up to speed, bro. Brush your teeth, pluck your unibrow, pluck the nose hairs jetting out of your nose there. If you got ear hairs, go ahead and pluck those out. Rock a tight battleship as far as your haircut is concerned. And when it comes to your haircut, you should basically have a haircut that fits your face. If you don't know what that is, ask the barber. Hey, give me something that fits my face. I'm not a big proponent of jewelry, although some people can pull it off.

8:17 You know, just try to look masculine. Try to look like in style. And better yet, try to look like the dude who's pulling the girls who you're attracted to. So I have a very particular type. I see what kind of dude pulls that girl. And therefore, I'm going to be that guy. For example, the kind of girl I like is in really good fucking shape. She's got a tight ass, tight belly, perky tits. She's hot as fuck, right? She's getting paid for her hotness. So do I really believe that I could look like a sea cow sitting on my couch playing Call of Duty all day, eating ho-hos, dip-dips, and jam-jams, and think that I could get a girl like that?

8:54 No, obviously I need to be in shape too because she's in shape. We need to have common attitudes when it comes to fitness and diet and appearance. Because a girl who's really into her appearance, I'm not going to lie to you, bro. She wants a guy who's really into his appearance as well. Does that mean you need a face like Brad Pitt? It'll help. It's going to help you get your foot in the door, but it's not absolutely necessary. And as I've talked about in previous episodes, sometimes being really good looking can be a hindrance because she expects you to have the high self-esteem, confidence, and ambition that goes along with it.

9:28 So don't trip out about your face, your body structure, anything like that as far as like how you were born. But do what you have to do to maximize it, to have a good style, to have clothes that fit you correctly. I would take a ghetto shirt from Walmart that fits me perfectly over a Gucci shirt that's like baggy and not fitting me perfectly. Although the better option would be a Gucci shirt that's completely custom made to my body. And even better yet, I actually have a tailor who's now making me custom clothes.

10:00 So I'm getting custom shirts, I'm getting custom pants, custom suits, and they fit me like a glove. And dude, women notice this. Just like that peacoat that I floss. Man, that thing fits me like a glove. It looks so good. I get compliments on it all the time. Are you kidding me? When I roll up to a girl, I'm like, hey, I just saw you standing over here. I wanted to come meet you. What's up? What's your name? She's already like into it, dude, because I'm just rolling a tight battleship as opposed to me rolling up on her in a Walmart wolves howling at the moon t-shirt.

10:30 Although I will say this, your game, your frame, your body language, your tonality, the things that you say are way more important than your style. So those of you, as I did, who tend to get a little bit hung up on the whole style thing, relax, bro. As long as you're doing it to a decent amount, you're putting like whatever, 60% attention into it, that's enough. I don't want you to think that's going to get you girls all on its own. Working on your game is the most important thing, but that first impression is important.

11:01 So work on your style, get it dialed in, run a tight battleship, bro, and launch a fusillade of destruction and championhood off the starboard bow. Number two, body language. And this is what I just talked about. Your voice tonality, your facial expressions. How you hold yourself, how you talk to her. Okay, I could rock that peacoat and my cowboy hat, although that wouldn't be good. But let's just put two nuclear power girl magnets in one outfit. Roll up to a girl and be like, hey, how are you doing?

11:30 I saw you standing over here and I wanted to come meet you. What's your name? Right? And she's going to blow me out so fast. My goddamn peacoat is going to blow off my body when the concussion hits. My cowboy hat is going to launch off my head and fly upward through a skylight. She's going to blow me out so quick. So while some of you tend to get a little bit hung up on the whole style thing, I want you to know that your tonality, your body language, how you hold yourself, how you speak to her is infinitely more important than your style.

11:58 Once again, dude, I could roll up on her with the wrong clothes completely, rocking a unibrow, just one freaking caterpillar right across my forehead, rocking the most ugly mullet you've ever seen on a guy, and a nose hair that's three feet long, and I could probably still get her attracted just by the nature of my game. That's just telling you how much more important game is than style. But when you mix the two, holy hell, lordy bombordy, you're going to get some results. And how do you get good at getting game?

12:30 Oh my god, dude, don't make me launch into 10 episodes right now, but it's practice. It's warming up. It's talking to girls all the time so that you're completely comfortable talking to them. Because if you're uncomfortable, it's going to be communicated. Little nerd mannerisms, uncomfortably moving your arms, standing awkwardly. That's all communicated. How do you get past that? How do I do it? Mark's saying, how could I just be comfortable? Got to warm up. You got to approach tons of girls. I'm talking hundreds and hundreds over the next several months.

12:59 And you don't have to try to get all their phone numbers. I just want you talking to chicks so that you get comfortable in those uncomfortable situations. All right, number three is how you interact with others, okay? And this is what I call staging. Staging means that I like it when a girl will overhear me in my natural habitat, as it were, being a complete champion to another girl. So I'll often do this, for example, with a hot girl who's standing in line at the grocery store.

13:30 Okay, I always get in behind a hot girl. Then as she's checking out, what I'll do is I'll start talking to the checkout lady. I'll drop charisma. I'll tell her her name. Like, I'll read it off her name tag. I'll be like, what's up, Stacey? How you doing today? You have to choke anybody out? Did anybody piss you off? And she laughs. She's like, no, not today. And I'll stage. I'll show the hot girl how I interact with the canyon mule. Then she sees that and she's like, okay, this guy's attractive.

13:54 Then I'll bring her into the conversation. This is called staging. And she's watching how you're interacting with other people, specifically how you're interacting with other girls. And this is the reason for pre-selection. Pre-selection means hot girls are going to want you when hot girls are around you. So what I'll do is I'll bring hot girls into the bar with me. Or if I don't have them with me, I'll just go snag one up and I'll bring her over next to another hotter girl and I'll stage, right?

14:23 It's almost like a performance. Not obviously a performance, but letting her see me interact with others. That's probably the very first thing she notices about me after my clothing and my style. All right. And point number four is how that person is responding to me. So let's go back to the staging example and let's go back to the grocery store. Okay. I opened the checkout lady dropping charisma bombs. I'm making her laugh so hard. She's tooting out little farts. And because of that, that girl is very observant to how I'm making the other girl feel.

14:55 So she's noticing about me and she's noticing about you, how you make other people feel in your presence. If you're one of these weird, creepy guys that goes up to people and makes them feel creeped out, that's going to be reflected in their body language. They're meaning the person who you're creeping out and the hot girl who you're trying to impress is seeing that you're having a bad influence on people. You're socially inept. You're not socially savvy. You're not attractive. And then she's going to get unattracted to you because of it.

15:27 So let's say at the gym, there's always, you guys notice this? A lot of you guys work out. There's always some weirdo in there that goes and talks to everybody. And like, I have to say, sometimes I am that weirdo, although obviously I'm not weird about it. I always drop charisma bombs. Everybody in the gym likes me, but there's always this weird guy who like goes and speaks to everybody. He's just socially awkward. Okay. Don't be that guy. How do you not be that guy? Well, you get the training, but you'll know, like if you're listening to this podcast, chances are you're socially savvy enough to recognize game when you see it.

16:00 Cause game recognizes game. You would not like this podcast. And I stand by this. You would not like this podcast unless you yourself had game, unless you yourself are socially savvy, unless you yourself recognized what good information is, what funny humor is, what a good coach is. So I have every confidence. You're not that creepy guy, but when that creepy guy goes around and people are reacting adversely to him, she's noticing that she doesn't want to talk to you. She's going to put herself in situations where she probably won't run into you.

16:33 All right. Tip number five, let's say she's noticed all these things about you. And now you go to talk to her. One of the first things she notices is how she affects you, how her hotness affects you. And this is especially true if she's a nine or a 10, if she's a nine or a 10, brother, I'm telling you, she's paying very close attention to how her hotness is affecting you. What do most guys do? Most guys turn into blabbering idiots, go into screensaver mode. Can't think of what to say, get nerd mannerisms, get that little giggle in their voice.

17:04 And then they blow themselves out. But you, if you're calm, imperturbable, unaffected by her hotness, she's recognizing that. And what is that? That's a sign of a man who's used to being around hot girls. And what is a man who's used to being around hot girls? He's attractive. He's socially savvy. He's trustworthy. So she's going to feel that from you as the first thing she notices. And that goes back to your body language, your tone. All these things are being affected unconsciously by her hotness. What's the secret to make yourself comfortable with a hot girl?

17:40 You know what I'm going to say? Talk to as many as you can. Get hot friends. Open and eject with freaking hundreds of people over the next few months. Then when you run into a hot girl, you'll be completely calm. Just as calm as I am speaking to you now. It's no big deal. I do it all the time. It's nothing. It's no big whoop. And she feels that. And because she feels that from you, she's going to get attracted to you because you're a rare alpha male who's unaffected by her hotness, especially when she's a 9 or a 10.

18:12 All right. And my next point is how you affect her. And this is the most important thing to her, isn't it? Is how you affect her. Don't forget the all-important concept of with them. What's in it for me? This is exactly what she's thinking. And this is why when you first approach a girl, you want to be what I call a go-giver. Go give her a good energy. Go give her a good compliment. Go give her a good interaction that's going to make her better and feel better from having met you.

18:41 Because all she's thinking about, how is this dude affecting me? You guys have all had it where some slapjack comes up to you and starts talking to you when you don't want to deal with him. And you're like, yeah, all right, man. I got to dip out of here. Yeah, yeah. So anyway, anyway, bro. And they keep talking to you. You are being affected negatively by them. And how are you so aware of that? It's because the only thing you care about is yourself. The only thing you care about is yourself.

19:05 It's human nature. What's in it for me? And she's sitting there thinking that. She's either thinking, oh, this is great. I like this. I'm having fun. I'm getting lots of value out of this. Or she's thinking to herself, what excuse can I make to get the fuck out of here? How long do I have to stick with this guy? So she's immediately recognizing and she's immediately screening for. How you affect her. And this is one of the most important things that she's looking for. So what's the answer, boys?

19:32 All right. So let's go over everything again. First of all, your clothing. Get your battleship dialed in, brother. You need to dress in the best way possible going to the venue that you're going to. Don't wear a suit to a beach bar and don't wear a beach attire to a suit bar, right? Let's dress for the venue and try to up our game. To dress like the guys who are getting the women who we want to get. Second thing, body language includes tone of voice, facial expressions.

19:59 There's a term in the pickups industry called emote. That means being able to show emotions in your character. Rather than just being a drone who speaks like this, you're actually charismatic. The inflection of your voice changes. You're expressive. She's looking for that in your body language and facial expressions. Number three is how you interact with others. She's observing you, talking to other people. So you can do what I call staging to warm her up and let her know that you're a champion of the highest degree and she's going to be stoked to talk to you.

20:31 Number four is how other people react to you. When you are speaking to that person, she's looking at how that person is reacting to you. Number five is how she affects you when you go up to speak to her. Is she having an influence on how calm you are? Is she getting you off of what I call the inner balance point inside of you and getting you affected and influenced by her hotness? And then most importantly, number six is how you affect her. How do you make her feel?

21:01 That's almost all she cares about. It's almost all she cares about. She's either thinking, I want to keep this going or I want to get the fuck out of here or I'm kind of on the fence about it and I'll see how things go as time goes. And it's your job to entertain her, make her attracted to you, keep her in the social hook point so she keeps speaking to you and wants to toss you her phone number and hang out with you after so you can dip into that like the champion that you are.

21:27 All right, gentlemen, I do appreciate you listening. Once again, if you found value in this podcast, I would very much appreciate that review. Just go to iTunes, go to the bottom. You got to go under see more episodes, scroll to the very bottom, click five stars, preferably five. I really don't like those four stars. If you're a four star kind of guy, just, just let it go. Don't worry. You don't have to leave a review. But if you're a five star kind of champion, one of my brothers that's fighting with me shoulder to shoulder in the unapologetic man, Phalanx, leave me that review.

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