The Powerhouse Seduction Technique of Push/Pull: When to Push & When to Pull With Women

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0:33 I want to talk to you about push-pull, when to push, and when to pull. So we understand that push-pull basically means this. Half the time you're pushing the girl away playfully, and the other half of the time you're actually pulling her in towards you. So there's a lot of concepts here that we have to get straight before we can talk about when to push and when to pull, and also other types of push-pull kind of scenarios that I'm going to get into. So it's really important that you have your thinking cap on.

1:08 You may even want to take notes on this one because this is so unbelievably important to get a woman attracted to you and to know how to behave in certain situations where there's tension thrown into the interaction from her, such as when she gets butt hurt or when she's being bitchy, when she's overreacting, when she's underreacting. You really need to have your social intelligence thinking cap on and be able to act and decide based on what she's doing. So guys, this is a super important episode.

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4:45 The 80-100 rule dictates that you give her 80% of the pulls that she's giving you. When I say pulls, that means her pulling you into her with compliments, desires to see you, texting you a certain amount of time, introducing you to her friends or even her parents, inviting you over and making you dinner, pulling you, chasing you, being interested in you. That's what a pull is. It's pulling the person into you. Okay, you got it? So, the 80-100 rule dictates that we give her 80%, concentrate now, of what she gives us.

5:22 So, she gives us five compliments. We give her four. She wants to hang out six times a week. You hang out with her, do four at the most, possibly three or two, depending on what you want to do. She wants to invite you to XYZ thing. You invite her to a different thing. That's like 80% of the pull that she's giving you. The reason this is, is twofold. First of all, the person who wants less is the one who's in power and you have to be in power.

5:49 Secondly, if you like her more than she likes you, if you give her more chase than she gives you, she's going to blow you out. It's the way the female mind works, which is why we have this rule, the 80-100 rule. Okay, I want to test you here. What's the 80-100 rule? That's right. You're a smart motherfucker. You are eating Cheetos out of your belly button. I see you doing that, but you're still a smart motherfucker. You give her 80% of what she gives you, which means your pulls are dictated by her pulls.

6:13 So, the amount that you pull her into you is dictated by how much she pulls you into her. If she doesn't pull you into her, you do not pull her into you. You do not start complimenting. You do not start showing interest. You do not do shit rotate her cuff until she starts doing things to you, such as flirting with you, complimenting you, touching you. You can give her about 80% back. Now, your pulls, and this is the hard part. This is where sometimes I tell my clients this and they look like they just had an enema and a brain lobotomy in the same moment and their face got sprayed with shit mist.

6:52 This is the look they give me. So, here it goes. While you pull 80% of what she pulls you, you also push the same amount. So, if I'm pulling her five times, such as I give her a compliment, I ask her to come hang out, I say something really nice to her, I pick her up from the nightclub, and I go to meet her parents because she really wants me to, I also jokingly push her away that same amount. Here's a classic example of a push-pull that I do all the time.

7:21 Too bad you're not my type, which is a push, because you're really cute, which is a pull. Too bad you're not my type, push, because you're really cute, pull. You see how that works? And we want to constantly push-pull, at least which is dictated by how much she pulls us throughout the conversation. And these are what I call false disqualifiers, which is you're disqualifying her falsely. It's not really true. It's like I say to chicks all the time. What kind of car do you drive? And she's like, a Hyundai.

7:50 And I'm like, oh my God, I cannot be friends with girls who drive Hyundais. It's just on my deal breaker list. Can't do it. We are not friends now. Goodbye. Okay. That's a fake disqualifier. Like I'm not really disqualifying her because she drives a Hyundai. I may disqualify her if she drives one of those cubes, I think it's called, where the window like wraps around the back and the side. I don't know if you guys have those in Australia and England, but they're freaking lame looking.

8:15 So if you drive a cube, deal breaker, bro. I'm just kidding. Relax. Don't hyper extend your butthole, dude. Take it easy. But I may disqualify her in a false way in that respect. That's a push. So it's always playful, right? I can't hang out with girls who like that band. I can't hang out with girls who drink that kind of drink. It's never a real deal breaker, such as I can't hang out with girls who are into Trump, or I can't hang out with girls who support the democratic party or who aren't vegan or who drink or something like that.

8:50 You don't want to do a real disqualifier. You want to do a false disqualifier. And that works into your push pull. Another example is, you know what, Sarah? Too bad you're horrible to talk to because you're actually pretty damn funny. So it's kind of like an insult wrapped into a compliment and they eat it up, boys. They eat it up. Now that we understand the concept of push pull, which is you're pushing her half the time, you're pulling her half the time, and your pulls are dictated by what, gentlemen?

9:15 That's right. The 8100 rule based on if she's pulling me 10 times, I can pull her eight times, but I'm also going to push her eight times. That's the way it works. I want to talk about some pushes that she's going to do towards you. If you guys are talking and she playfully messes with you, like you say, oh my God, I can't talk to girls who wear black pants and yellow sweaters. That's just a deal breaker for me. And she's like, I can't talk to guys who wear a black hat and have a logo over the right shoulder and unapologetic over their left shoulder on their podcast.

9:45 You laugh and you keep joking with her. You guys are busting each other's chops, which goes into being playful, which goes into being flirty, as I spoke about in a recent episode. But we also have to understand that there's real pushes. Real pushes where she typically gets butt hurt or she's playing games. Here's the rule when it comes to a woman really pushing you. And I need you to first deduce what the difference is between a real push and a fake push. A fake push is she's just messing around, such as the example of I can't talk to guys who have a podcast and they wear a black hat while they're recording it.

10:22 I just can't do it. It's a complete turnoff. That's obviously fake. But if she gets mad at you and she tries to push you away, or more importantly, if you screw up and chase her away, there's a way you have to get her back without the playful stuff. So the first thing is this. When she pushes you away for no good reason, tries to play games, doesn't text you back, flakes on a date, you push twice as hard. So she pushes an inch, you push a foot.

10:51 She pushes a mile, you push 10 miles. She pushes the width of the planet Earth, motherfucker, you're going to the sun. And that's the way I want you guys to be. You are not to be fucked with. If she pushes you, you're like, oh yeah, I'm going to push you twice as hard. That's why boys, when she says I don't kiss on the first date, what do you do? Following this rule, where you're going to push her 10x what she pushes you, she says to you, I don't kiss on the first date.

11:20 What you say is what? That's right. I don't kiss until the 16th date. In fact, we have to wait six months before we even hold hands, young lady. So don't you stop looking at my hand like that. I see you wanted to hold my hand. I see you getting greedy. Go over there. Actually, we should be across the street from each other. Don't talk to me. Go over there. All right. So we understand that when she pushes a little bit, you push a lot. It's just like the, hey, we're not having sex tonight.

11:42 The best thing you could say is, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I was actually going to say that, but I felt the timing wasn't right yet. I didn't really feel like it was socially the right time to say it. But yeah, of course we just met. What are you, what are you doing thinking about sex so much anyway? Why are you so into it? Relax. We just met. Slow it down. I know you're a little Casanova over here, but talking about sex this early isn't the best way to seduce me.

12:07 I need trust, comfort, and connection first and probably a poem and a flower left on my car before we could go there. Okay. So she puts out a little no-go. You go 10x that. Here's another question. What if you're playing with her, as I often do with girls, I always mess with them, the flirting method, as I spoke about, and they get butt hurt. They get legit butt hurt about what you did. Such as if you playfully say, and you're just messing around, but they get butt hurt sometimes.

12:34 You playfully say, you know what? I can't talk to you anymore. A girl that line dances that horribly, absolute deal breaker for me. Okay. And you're just kidding and you smile. It's a little bit of a false disqualifier. And guys, one way to memorize false disqualifier is false disqualify her. Ah, you see what I did there? Disqualify her. So you say a little false disqualifier. You're just fucking with her. You're like, I can't be friends with you because you're such a horrible line dancer. She gets butt hurt, which a lot of girls will do.

13:03 Some of these chicks are more sensitive than a clitoris sometimes. So you have to be really careful. And when they get butt hurt, it's time to get serious. And when I mean serious, I mean real. As I often say, and this too should be noted down for those of you who are taking notes. What I always say is the first conversation is 80% flirting, fucking around, busting her chops, push, pull, all the things I teach and 20% trust and connection. Well, if during the flirting process, you do a push, that's a false disqualifier and she gets butt hurt about it, you need to get real and say, Hey, listen, I didn't realize that that was going to offend you.

13:41 Now that I know you don't like that kind of humor, I'll avoid it moving forward. Sound good? And then she's like, yeah, sounds good. And then oftentimes this will reveal a vulnerability of hers, which creates trust and connection. So the thing about seducing women is it's a balance. It's a balance of fucking around and building trust of busting her chops, but letting her know that you're actually a real dude and you're super cool by making fun of her. But at the same time, being there for her and letting her be vulnerable.

14:12 Now in the first conversation, as well as the first date, it's usually about 80, 20, 80% flirting, 20% trust and connection. But guys, if in your flirting, she gets butt hurt, you say, Hey, listen, I didn't realize that would offend you. I won't do that again moving forward. Now notice I'm not saying sorry, like, Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know God. Cause then you're buying into her frame. The frame is, you know what? I'm really mature. You got butt hurt pretty easily, but since you feel that way, I'll go ahead and adjust myself to accommodate you since you can't hack it, which is really the underlying statement.

14:50 So she gets butt hurt. I never say sorry, never. Unless I'm like a complete dick and I do something to her like karate kicker in the face when I'm just trying to show her my Danielle son moves. And I didn't mean to kick her, but whap, I nailed her in the face. I'm going to be like, yo, sorry. I didn't mean to do that. But when it comes to her getting butt hurt for what I feel is an illegitimate reason, I always say, Hey, listen, I didn't realize it would affect you like that.

15:14 And listen to my words, boys. I didn't realize it would affect you like that. So I'll go ahead and avoid that for you moving forward, which is your butter. You're kind of hypersensitive. You hyper extended your ponytail as well as your anal chakra. I can't really get on board with that. I'm not going to apologize for it, but I will adjust myself to accommodate for you since you're so fucking weak. You got damn sea bass. Obviously I don't say that, but that's kind of the sub communication.

15:41 So let's review. If during your pushing, she gets butt hurt, you get real and you say, Hey, I won't do that again. Moving forward. If you're pushing, you have to make sure you also have pulls into it. So any kind of push should also result in a pull, which is like a compliment or a statement of interest. Your pushes are dictated by your pulls. Your pulls are dictated by the 80, 100 rule, giving her 80% of what she gives you. So while I may bust her chops a little bit and mess with her in the first conversation, before I have any pulls available, like false disqualifiers, just busting her chops, I'm not going to pull until she starts pulling me.

16:23 I will push before she starts pulling me, but I'm not going to pull before she starts pulling me, if that makes sense. Told you this was complicated. And this is probably the most complicated concept I teach. Most of the stuff is very straightforward. It just takes practice. It takes experience. So remember this gentlemen, this is really important. Push pull has to be part of your routine when you're seducing women, because it is that powerful. Remember it's dictated by the 80, 100 rule. If she gets butt hurt during your pushing, then you rationalize to her.

16:56 Hey, listen, I didn't realize I won't do that moving forward. And if she pushes you in a real way, flakes on you, says, no, we're not going to have sex as we can't kiss till the second date, you push 10 times as hard. And it happens too with flaking on a date. If a girl flakes on a date, in my opinion, she's completely done until she comes crawling back. If she comes crawling back, I'm going to make her work for it a little bit, because I'm pushing and I'm not afraid to push.

17:19 When they push a meter, you push a football field. And that's the way it has to be gentlemen. So there's a lot of little nuances that I went through in this episode, but this is a very brief overview of the 80, 100 rule, push pull, and how to build trust and connection by being understanding and rationalizing with her when she gets butt hurt, as well as when she tries to push you, she has no idea who she's fucking with. You're pushing 10 times as hard. Remember all this? It's going to help your game tremendously.

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