What to do When Your Friend is Bad With Women

0:00 Welcome to The Unapologetic Man Podcast, the only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it. What is up, gentlemen? Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the UMP. I really do appreciate you listening. And today, we're going to talk about what to do when your friend is a douche canoe with the ladies. When this guy gets you blown out so hard, your goddamn pants fly off when the concussion hits. You love the dude to death, but he just refuses to listen to any of your advice.

0:40 He thinks that if you learn this stuff, you're creepy, when in fact it's the opposite. When you don't learn it, you're creepy. And he has a fixed mindset where he thinks that if he goes into this and tries to admit that he needs help with it, it makes him lesser as a man. And he just doesn't admit his faults. He doesn't admit that he has issues with this. Or even if he does, he just doesn't really want to get it fixed because he believes that, ah, the right girl will come along one day.

1:05 Or he's just fucking scared. And he makes excuses and tells you that the right girl will come along one day. But he's so freaked out. And he doesn't understand that you can actually learn this stuff to a very high level if you just put a little bit of work into it. So he's in kind of that denial phase, doesn't want to improve himself. And he's getting you blown out. You love the dude. He's great. He's awesome. You have a great time with him. You guys laugh all the time.

1:28 But dude, the second a girl comes around, he just turns into beta cook, douche canoe, sea bass mode. And he blows you out. And I've been there many times, many, many times. And it's a tough situation to be in because you're listening to this because you're a good dude. You want to help your boy. You want to get him that improvement that he wants. You want to get him those girls that he wants. But kind of selfishly, too, you want him to stop blowing you out.

1:53 And you want to have a good wingman because you can't do everything yourself. And, you know, it kind of makes you look bad. It really does because who you hang out with is a reflection on you. And it's a difficult situation. So we're going to do a couple things in this podcast episode. Honestly, it's going to be short because the answer is not very complex. But I want to do a couple things for you. So first of all, I'm going to tell you the solution when you have a friend who is a douche canoe with the ladies.

2:19 And second of all, I am going to try to help you personally right now on this episode with one of those solutions. So there's two solutions to dealing with a dude who's not very good with women. And then on one of those solutions, I'm going to help you. I'm going to assist you personally. Uncle Mark Singh is going to step to the plate. Go ahead and get in the dugout, bro. Have some Gatorade. Take it easy. Sit back and relax. I'm closing this game, man. I'm the fucking closer.

2:44 Get me on the mound. I'm going to throw like 20 strikes in a row. Strike out those motherfuckers. Win this goddamn game for you if he's willing to listen. Before I jump into the podcast, boys, I want to let you know that my free, that's right, F-R-E-E breakthrough session where you and I get on the phone together, in a private conversation, just you and me, just chat it up like a couple of homies. And we talk about your issues with women. We talk about your belief systems.

3:09 I identify for you probably some of the shit that's been holding you back. And then we see if you're a good fit for my three-month coaching program. Gentlemen, I have to be honest with you. The dudes who are coming through the door are not only awesome, but they are getting phenomenal results. Phenomenal results. One, I want to give you a shout out, bro, because you've been one of the biggest surprises to me. You are just fucking crushing it. And I mean, you know, I told you it would take you probably about a year and a year and a half before you're really fucking getting to that point where you wanted to be at, which is basically you see a super hot girl, maybe even a 10, and you have the ability to go up to her, speak to her in a way that gets her attracted to you, yank her phone number, text her with the biggest chance of her texting you back, take her on a date, get her into you, get laid with her, have sex with that beautiful, perfect body of hers.

4:00 And then if you want to make her your girlfriend, that was your goal. And here you are in like what week nine. And you know, like, honestly, bro, I thought it was going to take longer. You're just killing it. This guy comes on the coaching call the other day. He's like, yeah, like my friend brought over this girl and she was pretty hot. So we start chatting it up. We play some pool. And then we had sex in the back of her car. And I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

4:22 Back it up there. A second brother. What the fuck? So he explains everything. He's just, he's just really understanding the concepts, getting it down. And he slammed it in the back of the car and his stabbing cabin. And I'm super proud of you, brother. You know, I quoted you a year initially and guys, I like to under quote and over deliver. And we definitely over deliver with this motherfucker. He's kind of like that, that gray man that just came out of nowhere and he's just absolutely crushing it.

4:48 So I'm so proud of you, brother. And that's what happens when you do the work. You do the assignments I give you. You do the NLP I give you. You show up to the coaching calls. You ask questions. You get involved and you actually approach 20 women a week, which is what I prescribe in this coaching program. And for those of you guys who are listening, it's like, oh my God, 20 a week. There's no way I could do that. Listen, I give you the way to do it.

5:10 So you sidestep rejection. It's called approach and eject. You're just asking them a quick question and then ejecting. And then once we've done a couple of weeks, then we start stacking conversations. I teach you exactly how to do it and you build conversations. So it's not like I'm having you approach girls with the attempt to get numbers immediately in the beginning. I'm just getting you used to the social pressure. So sure enough, Juan goes out there. He does everything I asked. And now look what's happening to him, guys.

5:35 He got the results that he signed up for. And now when he gets to the end of his life, he's not only going to have an amazing woman with him to experience the rest of his life with. But when he's on his deathbed, he smacks himself on the shoulder and says, dude, you're a fucking warrior. You're a champion. You went into your fear, willingly got this shit solved and got the ability to attract women at will. You, Juan, are a warrior. And for that, you have my utmost respect.

6:02 I hope you listen to this, you motherfucker. I'm not going to mention it to him, guys. I'm not going to even mention it and see if he brings it up. I'm testing you, Juan. You do all the homework, but let's see if you still listen to the podcast. In fact, I wouldn't really hold it against you because the coaching program is oh, oh, much better than this podcast. But, you know, I still want my guys to listen because it gets them into deeper rapport with me so that NLP works better.

6:22 But anyway, that's a whole different thing. So let's go ahead and jump into the content. All right, boys. So you're friends at Douche Canoe. Okay, what do you do when you have a partner in something who simply isn't good at something and who refuses to get better at it? Okay, so let's say you're really into tennis. You got that pink headband, the Adidas knee-high socks, and you're like the Steffi Graf of tennis playing, dude. You go, ah, every time you hit it. Ah, ah, ah. I slid a little bit.

6:51 And then you do it behind the back and you're like, oh, I beat him. You're like that, dude. Okay? And you want your boy to play with you, but he refuses to get better. He refuses to buy the right equipment. The guy is an absolute sea bass and you don't know what to do. And you've talked to him like, bro, come on, man. Let's go to Big Five and get you a new tennis racket. He's like, nah, man, I'm good. I'm good. What would you do?

7:12 Of course, this is what you do. You blow him out and go find a new partner. So you guys who are holding on to this friend who refuses to change, who refuses to listen to this podcast, even though you suggested it to him, who refuses to sign up to a coaching program and better himself, dude, you have to fucking drop him and go find somebody else. I'm not telling you, you can no longer be friends with this guy, but when it comes to this realm, this is a game, boys.

7:39 This is a skill set. This is a hobby that you're going to do with the right people, okay? Meeting a new wingman is not that hard. I've met dozens of them over the years. All you do is you go to your favorite venues or even cold approach and you open your eyes and see who is good with women. I've met many dudes who I approach and I'm like, yo, I saw what you just did there, bro. I can tell you have game because game recognizes game.

8:06 What's up, man? What's your name? Then we talk shop. Boom. I got myself a new wingman. And I've winged with dudes that very night when I went out alone. I'm like, okay, I got to go out alone. My buddy Eric or Chris can't come with me. So I'll just go out alone and I'll just meet a new wingman. And time and again, it happens. It's that abundance mentality. Stop being in such a scarcity mentality that you think your best friend, Adam, is like the only dude who you can go out with because, well, he's my friend since high school and I really love the dude and I really want to help him.

8:38 Listen, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. If Adam, just an example, if Adam is not willing to improve himself, if he's not willing to learn the skill set that you are consciously learning by listening to this podcast, sorry, bro. But Adam, you're out, dude. Go sit in the dugout. The fucking champion is going to get on the field and win this game for us. However, when you see my results and you want to step it up because you've seen how much better I've been doing, which has happened to me many times, then you're invited.

9:07 Open fucking arms. Okay. Now here's another thing that I've noticed, which is so fascinating to me. Okay. I have a very popular podcast. I have a ridiculously, retardedly effective coaching program, which I think is by far the best coaching program ever fucking created for seduction. I really do. It's the best. And I'll die by that statement. I'll die by that statement. So I have cousins, I have friends from high school, I have friends of my brothers, for example, a friend, particularly of my brothers who has zero game, mid forties, been laid maybe twice.

9:40 Okay. Zero game, super fucking lonely, works at a bank. I call the dude because we've known each other since I was like, you know, a little kid. I'm like, listen, brother, I will give this to you for free. I will let you come into the program. You come to the coaching calls. I'll do all the NLP on you free 99. Oh no, bro. Like I'm not really into that stuff. Like, I just don't think it can be learned, man. You know, it's just, you either have it or you don't.

10:06 And really when you meet the right girl, it'll just happen. It'll just work out. And dude, you know what I do? Big old forehead slap, man. I call it the Jesus forehead slap. Like Jesus wouldn't even believe this. Slap the forehead, shake my head and be like, dude, you are a fucking idiot. And I don't say that to him. I say, all right, man. You know, it's here if you want it. It's here if you want it. And I've done it with my other friends as well.

10:33 Hey, brother, I have this program. If you want to check it out, you let me know. Oh yeah. Like, you know, it sounds interesting, man. You know, I read your testimonies. I hear you're really good, but I don't need that. The right girl will come and it'll just work out. But whole shit, this is a skill set. Just like playing baseball, hockey, soccer, wrestling, Brazilian jiu-jitsu, pick your poison. It's the exact same thing. So any dude who says to you, bro, you're creepy because you're learning how to pick up chicks.

11:02 You're creepy because you're listening to the Unapologetic Man podcast. Do you know who the creepy one is? It's fucking him because he refuses to learn. And he creeps out women because he's weird. Who's the creepy one, you, because you know what the hell you're doing. You're bringing value to this girl. You're a go-giver rather than a taker or him who, when you introduce him to girls, he's weird. He's awkward. He shakes their hand too hard. He's got bad body language. He doesn't know what the fuck to talk about.

11:30 Who's the creepy one? He is. So first of all, if a dude is unwilling to change and makes you feel bad for doing this kind of work, bro, you need to be internally validated and you need to be stronger than his opinion of you. And if you need to, take my opinion of you. You're a legend. You're a champion because you're learning this shit. So smack yourself on the shoulder. Be your own hero. Okay. Now, let's say you do have a guy who is interested. Okay.

11:57 And this happens a lot too with me is when I first started getting really good with women, my friends would notice and they'd be like, dude, what are you doing? What I'd always do, and I learned this the hard way, is I would always be like, yo, you don't want to know. Like, you're not into it, bro. You're not into it. Yeah, I am. Seriously. What are you doing? Well, I'm studying this stuff, but it's not for you, man. It's not for you. So what I've learned through the years, and I even really learned this with my brother's friend, is you can't offer it to them too easily.

12:25 And you have to show before you can tell. So you have a friend who is a sea donkey with the chicks. If you are really getting good enough, he's going to ask you, how do you do it? Okay. He's going to ask you. You need to wait to that. You need to be patient. Because if you bring it up to him like, hey, bro, I've been listening to this podcast. It's really good. I signed up for this program. It's amazing. Whatever it is, he's going to have more resistance to that because you're not showing through proof.

12:53 So what I suggest for you guys is, first of all, you show through proof. Secondly, when he asks, you say, dude, you wouldn't be interested. It's too much work for you, bro. It's too much work for you. Now, this is a psychological technique, which is people want what they can't have. So you make him appreciate it more and be like, no, no, I really am interested. Then you say, listen, if you really are, ask me in a couple of days. Maybe we'll talk about it. Okay.

13:15 A couple of days goes by. He asks you again. You say, are you really interested, bro? Do you really want to learn this? Yeah, man, I really want to learn it. You'd be like, well, it's kind of an exclusive thing. I don't share it with a lot of people because I don't want it to get too big. But there's this podcast I listen to that's absolutely changed my life. It's the Unapologetic Man podcast. Or maybe it's the How to Talk to Girls podcast with Tripp Kramer or the Ask Women podcast with Marnie Kinris.

13:39 Whatever you like the best. And then introduce him to that and say, yo, listen to that. And then we'll catch up in a couple of weeks. And then in a couple of weeks, you say, hey, did you listen to this? Are you listening to it? Stuff like that. Okay. If he still doesn't do it, dude, he's out. Go find a new wingman. You don't have to reject your friend completely. If you guys like to sit around and play video games together, you guys like to go play tennis together and he's actually into it, then keep doing that.

14:05 But for getting girls, this isn't your dude. Now, if he is your dude, he's going to be into this and he is going to be open to learning about this. All right. Now comes the special part of this episode. I'm going to go ahead and talk to your boy. Okay. Because I know having this conversation is a little bit difficult. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to send him this podcast and tell him to start it at whatever time I'm about to be on right now.

14:30 Okay. So here we go. All right, brother. Listen, your friend sent you this podcast because we all need to have a heart to heart. Okay. So I'm going to be honest with you, man. Like you're, you're a little bit awkward with the women. Okay. And it's not your fault, bro. It's not your fault. You don't know what to say. You've never been trained in this way. And again, it isn't you. It's just, you haven't been trained. It's not that you're not worth enough. It's not that you're an idiot, a sea donkey or any other thing like that.

14:58 It's just, you don't have the skillset. And listen, immediately you're going to say, well, dude, if I learned this shit, it's creepy. It's not, it's creepy to not learn this stuff. So I want you to get that out of your head that these guys who have learned it. And by the way, my name is Mark Singh. I'm the podcast host. And I used to be the creepy dude who didn't understand how attraction works. And I used to creep the shit out of women until I went out and I learned this stuff.

15:23 And now your boy's learning this stuff. And you see, he's getting a lot better, man. The dude's getting a lot better because he buckled down. He realized this is a skillset that can be learned. And he wants to learn it. And listen, he wants the best for you. He sees you struggling just like I struggled and probably just like he struggled. And he wants you to come join our community. Come join the brotherhood. Come get in the trenches with us and fight this battle with us, bro.

15:48 It's worth it. But listen, this is what you have to do. First of all, you need to admit that you have a problem. Okay. This denial shit, it's fucking weakness. You know it. I know it. Even you know it. So we get rid of the denial. You have an issue just like I did and probably just like your boy did. But you have that. Okay. Admit it. Now what I want you to do is start listening to my podcast. I give a lot of fucking advice about how to talk to girls on this podcast, the kinds of things to do.

16:14 And I'm telling you, it's worth it, man. Give this podcast three months. Just listen to as many episodes as you can. Really try to understand the fundamentals of attraction. Scroll through them. Pick the ones that you like the best. And from that, you're going to start developing a skill set. And then what's going to happen is you and your friend are going to go out and you guys are going to start getting better results. You're going to know what to say. You're going to know why girls weren't attracted to you in the past.

16:38 Your body language is going to be good. You're going to have fun, man. You're going to have so much more fun. And if you're going out with your friend right now and not getting results, I know you want those results. You wouldn't be going out with them unless you did. So here's what we're going to do. Okay. First of all, thank your friend for sending you this. That's because your boy loves you. He's got your fucking back. Big props to him because he's a champ. Second of all, after this podcast is done, click on the first one that spikes your interest and keep listening to it.

17:06 I'm talking a couple a day. Now you're doing like 14 to 20 a week. You're really getting knowledge. And I'll tell you, don't mean to toot my own horn, but I get emails every day. In fact, I get hundreds of emails a week telling me how awesome this podcast is and how much it helps, how much guys are pulling girls just because of this podcast. And bro, if you want to step it up to the next level, I'm inviting you to get on the phone with me on a free one-on-one breakthrough session.

17:32 You and I will talk about your issues and we will fucking hyper drive your acceleration to getting girls. In fact, you'll probably pass up your boy unless your boy is in the coaching program. Hell, both of you guys come sign up. I want to meet with both of you. And when we do, I'm going to teach you how to wing with each other, how to pull girls. And bro, you getting to the end of your life, never having gotten this shit fixed is going to be a freaking nightmare that you've just woken up from because everything changes when you take the responsibility, responding with ability to learn the shit and to make yourself good with women.

18:07 So thank your friend. I thank you for listening. I do appreciate it. The time has come to improve this. You guys are going to have so much fun together. Trust me. It's so worth it. It's so worth it. So that's my message to you, man. Thanks for listening. All right. For the rest of you guys, I do appreciate your listening. I hope that helped. If your friend is a douche canoe with the women and if you're listening and you are that guy who this was sent to, don't take it personally.

18:32 I was the biggest douche canoe that ever lived when it comes to women, bro. I couldn't get laid if I was in a Tijuana whorehouse with $100 bills strapped to my penis. That's how bad it was. So trust me, if you think you're a hard case, there's always harder cases than you who got past the shit simply by learning it because not learning it is creepy. Learning it is what women actually want you to do. Learn how to talk to them. Learn how to attract them. Understand them.

18:57 That's what they want. That's what they want. That's what you're doing now. So respect to everybody who listens to this. Hopefully that helps you with your friends, boys. And if not, I hate to say it, but it's best to drop a guy who just refuses to change and go meet a dude who does want to change and want to grow in this way. There's tons of guys in the nightclubs. I recognize them freaking every time I go out and there's a lot of great dudes and who knows, maybe you meet your next best friend by getting out there and doing that, putting yourself out there and getting a guy who's going to help you and not hinder you with the ladies.

19:28 All right, gents. Thanks again for listening. I drop podcasts on Mondays and Thursdays. So make sure to stay tuned for the next one. And I will see you in the next episode. I will see you in the next episode.

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