Learning how to attract a woman through your conversation is easy.
You just have to change the way you think about your interactions.
In this article we’ll discuss 7 proven strategies to attract a woman.
They include:
- Qualifying
- Frame Control
- Refaming
- 7 Funny Lines
- Preselection
Technique 1: Reverse Cold Reading to Bait Qualification (or RCR):
RCR is an extremely powerful technique to get her to sell herself to you.
This is also known as qualifying.
And it alone will generate huge attraction in women.
Why?
Because we value what we work for.
So when you can get a woman to work for you…
When you can get her to explain herself to you…
Her attraction for you will explode.
If I had only 5 techniques to choose from during my initial conversation, this would be one of them.
Here’s the technique:
- First, notice something about her that you believe is true.
For example, let’s say she’s carrying a hippie-type purse.
So you conclude she’s not materialistic.
You might also conclude that she frowns upon that kind of thing.
- Say that you don’t like the opposite of how you think she is.
For example, you could say:
“I just got off the phone with my friend. He’s saying that his girlfriend is asking him for a super expensive Louis Vuitton ring for her Birthday. I don’t know… I don’t really like girls that are materialistic like that, ya know?”
Then let in hang.
She’ll then say:
“Well, I’m not like that. I feel like money should be spent on experiences. Not material possessions…”
At this point you need to reward her behavior.
You are rewarding her for jumping through your hoop.
You could say:
“You know what, I like that about you. You just went up 10 points in my book. You’re now at negative 33 points. Congratulations.” (with a wink and a smile).
Here’s what’s happening with this exchange:
- You’re rewarding her for being the type of girl that you like.
- You’re rewarding her for qualifying herself to you.
As a general rule, the more we work for someone…
The more we try to “live up” to their expectations…
Then the more we have to convince ourselves that we like them.
That’s why getting a girl to qualify herself to you is so critical for building attraction.
***IMPORTANT SIDE NOTE***
Never qualify yourself to a girl.
If they try to get you to “sell yourself” to them, don’t do it.
Defer to the strategy in technique 2, Frame Control…
Technique 2 – Frame Control
Frame control is the most important part of seduction.
In fact, my entire team agrees that this is the single most critical thing when it comes to attracting a woman.
It’s so important we refer to it as “The Golden rule.”
Frame control basically refers to who is controlling the interaction…
Who is guiding the conversation…
Who has the power…
And who is the leader.
For example- when you go to the doctor, the doctor controls the frame.
When you meet a famous person, they will control the frame.
When a cop pulls you over, he controls the frame.
And for most guys who are not good with women, the girl is the one who controls the frame.
Here’s something you might want to write down…
Women are designed to become attracted to men who have a stronger frame than they do.
So HOW do you show women you have a stronger frame than they do?
- You don’t care what happens.
- You’re not trying to build rapport with her.
- You’re not trying to get anywhere with her.
- You tease her in a playful way that shows you’re not afraid of the interaction going bad.
Here’s the best way to think about it…
Pretend you are dating 5 women.
If you already have women in your life, how would you act?
Put all your decisions through that filter.
And you’ll know the best move every time.
Here’s a great video on frame control:
Frame Checks
When first approaching a woman, she needs to check if you are a high value man.
To do this, she is going to use: “Frame Checks.”
Similar to checking a rope before you rappel off a cliff, a woman will say mean things to you to see if she can affect you.
She needs to test your frame to see if it’s strong enough for her to become attracted to you.
For example, she might ask you things like:
- “Why are you drinking that drink? That’s a girl’s drink.”
- “Why are you wearing that shirt?”
- “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?”
- “Why are you talking to me?”
The rule for passing her Frame Checks is this…
YOU MUST BE UNAFFECTED!
In other words, don’t buy into her frame.
Don’t explain yourself to her.
Instead, do what’s called “Reframing.”
Technique 3 – Reframing
Reframing is when you turn the tables around on her.
For example,
Her: “Why are you wearing that ugly shirt?”
You: “Look, I know you really want to take my shirt off right now
sweetie, but this is not the time or place for that.”
-OR-
Her: “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?”
You: “The real question is, why are you asking me if I have a
girlfriend? Slow down there, Casanova, I hardly know you
yet.”
-OR-
Her: “So do you just go up to random people and ask them questions?”
You: “Yes I do. To me, strangers are friends I haven’t met yet. Don’t you agree that most people are nice once you get to know them?”
Or you could say:
You: “Only to people who seem friendly. Wait, you’re not mean are you? Cuz if I wanted to see mean girls I’d stream it on
Netflix.”
Another example is if a girl calls you a dork.
You would simply ignore it and keep talking.
After all, the Alpha Male isn’t used to being insulted.
The way he speaks to himself is number one.
It’s far more powerful than any negative outside voices.
So it’s like he didn’t even notice it.
He’s a champion.
And it takes A LOT to throw him off his inner balance point.
As a general rule, when you’re talking to an attractive woman, you want to pretend you’re talking to an 11 year old girl.
Now, I don’t mean this to be condescending.
It’s just that tone that shows her you’re the one controlling the frame.
Bring this dynamic into your conversations with women and you’ll start to see immediate changes in how they react to you.
Listen to my podcast: “Frame Control Reversals”
Technique 4 – 7 Clever One Liners that Generate Attraction
Here are 7 one-liners that you can add into your conversations with women:
1) “When you stalk me please promise to put the ladder back in my garage. All the other girls leave it resting on my house and it drives me nuts.”
2) “If you were smart you’d know you’re dumb.”
3) “If you were a cop and you arrested me, I’d soooo sweet talk my way out of custody.”
4) When she asks you what you do, say: “I’m a world famous
ass model.” After that, tell her what you do in a fun and
interesting way.
5) “You and my grandma should totally go pick up guys together.”
6) You: “You’re passionate aren’t you?”
Her: “Yes.”
You: “Is that why you got your favorite poem tattooed on your butt?”
7) “Wow, you have really pretty eyes. Wait, no, my mistake. The right one is way prettier than the left one. So let me rephrase my statement, you have a pretty eye.”
Listen to my podcast: “20 Funny Things to Say to Girls”
Technique 5 – Preselection
Women are attracted to men who already have women in their lives.
Why?
Because it’s a mental shortcut for women.
It’s like when you’re at a crosswalk looking at your phone.
When everyone else walks, you walk too.
You don’t have to think about it.
You let others make the decision for you.
Women do this all the time when it comes to men and dating.
It’s in their biology.
It’s called “Preselection.”
And you’d be smart to use it to your advantage.
How to Show Preselection:
- Staging
Staging is when you show women that you’re already good at speaking to women.
I’ll often do this at bars.
I’ll take a girl who likes me close to a girl who I think is cute.
I’ll make the first girl laugh.
I’ll let the other girl hear my voice and charisma.
And I’ll let her see how much the other girl is into me.
Then, I might even open the new girl by introducing her to the first girl.
This is called using a “pivot.”
I also use staging in grocery stores.
When there is a cute girl I’ll get in line behind her.
Then while the lady is checking her out, I’ll start talking to the grocery lady.
The cute girl will obviously overhear my charisma and confidence.
And eventually I’ll bring her into the conversation as well.
- Hickies
One time I had hickies on my neck.
I was shopping, and the attraction from girls was amazing.
I couldn’t believe something so stupid as hickies could get other women attracted to me.
A secret is to put a little bit of lipstick on your neck or on your collar.
Women will imagine it’s another girl.
And their attraction for you will skyrocket.
- Lipstick, glitter, perfume on your face or body
This seems childish.
And let’s be honest, it is.
But it works!
A little glitter on your face and you’ll have girls giggling and getting more attracted to you.
When a woman asks you about it, just smile and look down at the floor with a glaze in your eyes.
Make it seem like you’re remembering something enjoyable.
Then say: “Meh, doesn’t matter.”
And change the topic.
Remember, when you have frame control you can lead the conversion.
And that includes not talking about things you don’t want to.
- Pink yoga mat with a girl’s name on it.
I used this technique all the time when I was into Yoga.
It would be a good conversation starter, too.
The trick is to set up next to a cute girl.
She’ll notice you’re mat.
But make sure it’s BRIGHT PINK.
And have one of your girlfriends scroll the name “Nathalie” right along the top in big, girly letters.
Sit down next to her and stretch for a few minutes.
Then when the time is right, turn to her and say:
“So what do you think of my awesome pink yoga mat?”
That’ll kick off the conversation and get your foot in the door.
You may also want to have a funny story prepared.
You can talk about how everyone gives you funny looks when you walk in with that yoga mat.
But you don’t know if you like yoga yet.
So you’re just trying it out first.
And if you like it — as your friend Nathalie hopes you will — you’ll buy your own stuff.
- Girls hair on something you’re wearing
Blonde hairs on black shirts are the best.
Put them right up on your shoulder.
You’ll be amazed at how often girls will notice and comment on them.
- Having pictures of you with hot girls on your social media pages
This one is gold.
When women see you have other beautiful women in your life they’ll get attracted to you.
And they may just message you out of the blue.
- When talking about an arbitrary friend use “girlfriend.”
For example:
“My girlfriend was telling me today about the guy she’s dating…”
When we show women we have girls who are friends, it makes us far more trustworthy.
- If you’re hanging out with a girl, have your friend call and text you a bunch of times.
You won’t even have to mention a girl.
The girl you’re with will just assume it!
Listen to my Podcast: “How to 10X Your Attractiveness With Preselection”
There are a myriad of strategies to attract women.
But these 5 strategies will get you started in the right direction.
What to do next:
- Grab my free cheat sheet that provides the most important core elements of approaching women without fear. This is great to have in your back pocket when you’re out meeting women: https://coachmarksing.com
- Check out my article “How to approach a girl” for a bunch of great strategies to speak to women.
- Listen to my Podcast: The Unapologetic Man Podcast for more amazing tips for how to talk to girls.
- Check out my coaching offer. I use NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to reprogram the negative wiring in my client’s heads and make them more attractive to women.